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Making New Friends May 23, 2013

Filed under: Life — Lacey @ 9:15 pm

It all started because fresh corn was on sale at Publix. H begged me to buy some and then requested them for dinner that night. I decided to experiment and asked her to try shucking them for me in the backyard while I started the rest of dinner. (H is now an expert shucker btw! Whoever thinks their preschooler is too young to help with dinner is wrong!)

Anyways. While in the backyard shucking the corn, (shucking is such a weird word. It almost feel like I’m cursing while saying it.) H noticed the neighbor boys (whom we’ve never met) playing in their backyard. And through a loose wooden slat, the kids started talking to each other. I’m not quite sure who started the conversation, but somehow my quiet shy girl turned into Miss Bubbly!

H kept running inside asking me to come meet her new friends. Then she wanted J to come outside to meet them because she had told the boys all about him. Then she wanted me to wake K up from her nap to come meet them. This request I denied of course! And finally she wanted the dog to come out to meet them. Little Miss Social Butterfly was cracking me up!

I finally went outside after I got to a stopping point with dinner. I met the boys, Elijah (5) and Noah (6). They were sweet and asked if H could come over and play. Well, thankfully it was getting dark and it was dinner time so I had a polite excuse to say no. I had now ventured into the awkward dance of having to be careful of what influences I allow H to around and trying to not squash a budding neighbor relationship.

See, I haven’t had the best impression of the adults that live in that house. Honestly, I’m not even sure how many live there and which ones are the boys’ parents. I was surprised that both boys have Biblical names since the language we have heard from the adults is anything but Biblical. And two Christmases ago when I tried to take Christmas cookies to them, they opened the door a whole two inches to ask what I wanted while I was overwhelmed with horrible smells of dog, smoke and who knows what else. So, my plan is to let them maybe hang out in our backyard with supervision in the future. And H really wants to invite them to church. I keep telling her we will work up to that. In fact, when she was talking to them she said “I’m going to take you to church!” Afterwards I had to nicely explain to her that she needs to ask them, not demand. And before she even does that she probably needs to tell them what church is since they may not have ever heard of it!

The boys told her that they could maybe come over when its not a school night. And since that day, H has asked me pretty much everyday if its a school day or not. And after about three days of this she exclaimed “there’s too many school days!!” Good thing we’re homeschooling!

Before she said goodbye to the boys for the night, they gave her two little dog figurines. She couldn’t only find one to take a picture.

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About a week later, she ran to the fence excited when she saw the boys outside again. This time they gave her an armful of little treasures: a heart bead bracelet, a paper airplane, a paper star, a Lego ninja and a handful of glass piggies (most of which are hidden somewhere in the bottom of her toy chest).

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H ran inside excited to show me her new trinkets. And said “Um, they told me not to show them to you. But I should obey you instead, right?”

Yes ma’am. You better. And now I definitely think these kiddos will need to be closely supervised if they play with H.

I told H that she should bring them some little gifts, too. So we quickly dug through her toys to find some boyish type things. She settled on sharing a little car, a small toy hippo, a couple play coins, and two pictures she drew (one for each). But she was super sad to find that they had already gone inside by the time she ran outside. So we put her gifts in a big ziploc bag (in case it rained) with their names on it and she slid it through to their side of the fence.

The next day she went out and found that they had left her a present in a little ziploc bag, too! She now has six Jenga blocks and a small toy space shuttle.

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H then left them another gift of two Easter eggs with a bracelet in each. She made the bracelets and tried to put boy beads on it (different kinds of sports balls) but I did see her sneak a lady bug button on each. Not sure how they’ll feel about those. Haha. She left their gifts in a bag on their side of the fence.

I don’t know why I think this budding friendship is so neat. I think it’s fun and sweet that they are sharing little treasures. I like that H started this friendship on her own and that she’s excited to get to know them. And I like that H now has some friends she can tell about Jesus! So, I’m praying that she’ll get more chances to visit with them and that we’ll work up to getting to talk to their parents, too!

 

Blooming Onion May 8, 2013

Filed under: Recipes,Side Dishes/Snacks — Lacey @ 2:24 pm

This week I took the girls strawberry picking with a friend and her kiddos. At the farm they were selling these huge onions:
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I had the bright idea to make a Blooming Onion

with mine.

This recipe was pretty easy all things considered and I actually had all the required ingredients besides horse radish (which I wouldn’t have used anyways). It was a bit spicy for my taste but I still liked it. I did have to use more oil than it called for for my small fry-daddy.

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I served mine with hamburgers and corn on the cob.

 

How We Added 2 in 2 Days! May 3, 2013

Filed under: Life — Lacey @ 12:45 am

Our family adventure began back in December.  I’ve been too busy and honestly hadn’t decided how I wanted to post about this.  I’ve finally decided its time to put into words our new family adventure…adding 2 more kids in 2 days!

At the beginning of last December (2012), we were still waiting to hear back about beginning our homestudy to adopt from foster care.  We had waited a year and a half on the waiting list to even begin the process, then had to take a 2 month parenting class and then we had to wait again to get our homestudy done.  At this point we had been waiting six months since finishing the class and I was seriously wondering what God’s plan was for our family.  At times, Seth still didn’t feel ready to adopt and didn’t want to pick out a kid “like a pair of pants at the store.” He wanted God to just give us a kid or clearly show us who we were supposed to adopt.

 

Whelp.  Did God ever answer Seth’s prayers and mine, too!  On December 8th, I received a phone call from my mom telling me that friends of theirs would be calling me because they were ready for us to adopt their granddaughter.  I couldn’t believe it.  They had talked to my mom a few times over the baby’s first year about us adopting her, but for one reason or another they weren’t ready for us to.  But now, for a number of reasons they were now ready for us to adopt her. (To give just a basic background for why the baby needed to be adopted: her mother was a teen when she became pregnant, she wasn’t mature enough to care for the baby and after getting into legal trouble was now out of the state.)

 I talked to the grandmother on the phone later that afternoon and talked through all the details of the situation. I didn’t want to even begin to get excited until I knew for sure that this would be permanent.  I didn’t want to begin the process and then have them change their minds.  I didn’t want to bring home a baby and then have to give her back.  But they assured me that this would never ever happen.  We had to trust God that this is what He wanted and that He would help us along the confusing path forward.  We would be able to adopt her and would have to take her home before the adoption would be finalized and the actual date of when we could get her was still up in the air.  We went to meet with a lawyer a couple of days later to find out about the process that would be required.  Then we received a call from the grandparents informing us that we needed to get the baby that weekend because the grandfather would be having surgery the next week.  We couldn’t believe it!  We went from having no idea when we would be adopting a child to bam! having another child within a week! And thus began the mad scramble to prepare for this beautiful child we had yet to meet.  I had looked at pictures online that the Grandma had sent me and I was soooo excited to meet the baby.  

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I had no idea what to expect.  I didn’t know how she would react to me or all of us.  I didn’t know how Haddie would actually react once we brought the baby home.  She was super excited about having a new sister, but how would the sudden change effect her?

 

In the days that followed during that week, we skyped with the baby and her grandma a few times, but of course, a one year old isn’t too interested in skyping someone she has never even met!

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And I prepared Haddie’s room for our sweet new addition.  I was so excited I couldn’t even sleep most days!  I woke up early (which is unheard of for me!) and ended up in Walmart to buy tubs to sort clothes for both girls.  And I ended up getting matching Christmas PJ’s for the girls.  I was so excited to actually be able to say “The Girls!” And imagine, learning that you’ll have another child one week before Christmas!  Yep, lots of chaos was going on in my mind!

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I began the task of thinning out Haddie’s large clothes collection (thanks to God’s blessings of hand-me-downs).  I had to empty out two of the four drawers in Haddie’s dresser to make room.  Then we went through her toys and weeded out toys to give away and toys that would be too small and swallowable for a one year ago.  Boy, how much I had forgotten about babies already! I decided to let her keep the small toys (think My Little Pet Shop, Mr. Potato Heads, and lots of dress up jewelry) in the guest room in a section now dearly called the “Haddie only toys.”  Next, we had to make floor space for a crib and changing table.  So, we ordered a hanging net for her stuffed animals and planned to get rid of her big basket that currently held them.  And after a few room adjustments we had enough empty space and were all ready for a new baby!Image

 

Seth put plywood on the sides of his truckbed so we could bring back all of Kady’s stuff.  And of course, Haddie wanted to help, too!

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And then on Friday of that week, we left to go meet our new baby!  I wasn’t sure what to expect, but as always God took care of us and made it all go amazingly smoothly.  The baby came right to me and warmed up to us rather quickly.  I just wanted to cry when I took this first picture with her (and of course she had fallen and hit her head on the couch so she has a nice welt on her forehead, too).

 

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A number of my friends told me I look so amazingly happy with her.  And I was!  We had to accompany her grandmother on one last appointment with her.  And my heart melted as I watched my girls together for the first time.

 

 

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God’s ways are so much higher than our ways. And His plans than our plans.  He knew what He was doing all along!  Here’s Daddy holding his girls together for the first time:

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Later that afternoon, we got to watch the baby (whom we have now named Kady), while her grandparents attended an event at their church.  It was so much fun getting to spend time with Kady and watch Seth interact with her.  These moments again brought tears to my eyes.

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And early on Saturday morning we began packing all of Kady’s things and loading the truck.  We seriously looked like the Beverly Hill Billies.  Ironically, Kady’s grandparents live in Beverly Hills…

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We were so grateful to be able to have all of Kady’s baby things because we have given ours away over the years.  We honestly had resigned ourselves to the fact that we weren’t going to have another baby.  I didn’t want to go through another pregnancy, and we had it on our hearts to adopt.  But since we were planning on going through foster care, the likelihood of getting a baby was pretty much 0!  But again, God had other things in mind! But back to our story…

On the two hour trip back home, I couldn’t stop staring at my girls.  They were alike in so many ways.  Blond hair.  Blue/Green eyes.  Light complexion.  And thumb suckers, none the less!

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Once we got home, we unloaded the truck and I began the challenge of figuring out what went where and what we even needed.  We were able to bless a few different friends with the doubles of the baby items and things that Kady had already out grown.  And in return we were blessed by others with lots of baby girl clothes.

 

I don’t even remember how we slept that night.  I know I was excited and still in disbelief that I had two kids now! But I think I was so worn out from the previous week that I slept pretty well.  It was seriously unreal to wake up the next morning and get two girls ready for church! It was a blessing to so many to see their prayers answered for us…and the beautiful baby girl that God had blessed us with!

 

The next day we unexpectedly added another blessing to our family! Jenco called us and said that he would be coming that day!  See, Jenco is a teen that we met through our youth group and had been in our lives for about 3 years.  He didn’t have the best home life and once he turned 18 he wanted to move in with us.  He had turned 18 a week before, but he wasn’t planning on moving in until the beginning of the new year.  Well, family matters had transpired and it was time for him to join our family!  So, two days after we got a new baby, we also got a new teen son!  He had already been in the process of moving in over the past month or so.  We already had his room ready for him (thankfully!), but he hadn’t yet moved many of his clothes.  So a couple of days later we ventured out to get him some essentials from the thrift store (no, not underwear from a thrift store, that’s nasty!).  

 

I loved seeing all my 3(!) kids playing together and I loved how Jenco and Haddie had taken such a liking to Kady already.

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Our life had definitely changed drastically in less than a week! But God knew what He was doing!  No longer did we have a quiet house with only one child.  Now we have a screamer (Kady) and a teen who loves to blare his music!  It’s been an interesting adjustment, but God has seriously made it so much smoother than I could have ever imagined or wished for.  Of course there have been rough patches along the way these past 4 months.  I’ve needed lots of naps.  There’s been late late nights and early mornings.  More plates to fix, more dishes to wash, more toys to pick up, more laundry to do.  But I wouldn’t change it for the world and our family is now complete more than ever!

 

Not only that…but we also added a couple other additions to the family.  Meet our new (to us) van, Big Bertha:

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She’s not very pretty, I’ll admit.  But hey, what do you expect for $900?  And she got a lot uglier before she got better.  We had to replace the two front doors (window didn’t rolls down and with no AC that’s not cool. Literally.) with ones Seth salvaged at the junk yard.  So ugly gray body plus two white doors.  Yep, even uglier.  Thankfully Seth’s dad decided to have pity on us, and helped us paint her all a nice shade of blue.  But unfortunately, I don’t actually have any pics of her finished for some reason (and its too dark outside to get a good shot).  

 

And we also added another more pretty face to the family.  Meet Justus:

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Honestly, I never thought we’d get a dog.  I’m not a big animal person.  And I don’t like the extra mess that dogs and animals bring into the house, let alone the extra expenses on our already strained budget.  But Jenco really wanted a dog and Haddie had been begging for one for a long time.  So, when a friend needed a new home for doggie, we knew it was time to add one more member to our growing family!  And except for the fact that she has a knack for escaping while we’re gone, she’s been a fun addition!  The girls love her and she is soooo great with them!  And of course Jenco loves her too, although he pretends not to.

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So, we now have a big happy family!  4 months after bringing Kady home, we are still waiting on her adoption to be finalized.  The lawyer seems to be taking her sweet time.  Thankfully all the paperwork is finally in and all we need to do is have the judge sign off on all of it.  As far as Jenco’s adoption, we hope to have that finalized later this year after he takes a missions trip to India, since there’s not enough time to get the adoption done, his name changed and then have time to get all the required trip items (passport, visa, tickets).  So please be praying for our family still.  For the adoptions to be finalized quickly, for God to provide for all our needs (like I’m sure He will!) and for our other house to sell. It’s hard enough living on one salary…let alone paying for two houses! Thankfully, he has provided renters for the meantime, but we’d still like to not have that extra burden hanging over our heads.  

 

But anyways, we are so thankful for this new family that God has created for us!  

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He has blessed us beyond measure and I’m amazed that He has found us worthy to take on these wonderful children!  If you’re waiting for adoption or adding to your family in some other way, be patient and know that God has a plan.  Do your part and wait for Him to do His!